Written by Back-to-School Success: Top Tips for Parents and Kids
by Jennifer Jury with Acadia Psychology and Learning Services
Believe it or not, the back-to-school season is just around the corner! As the summer winds down, a whirlwind of emotions often sweeps through our homes. The excitement of new beginnings mingles with the anticipation of seeing friends, but let’s not forget the uncertainty and anxiety that can tag along. Since the start of the pandemic, this transition has affected some kids more intensely. To help your family navigate this transitional period smoothly, here are some essential tips that promise to make the return to school a breeze for everyone.
Navigating new routines and changes:
- Have a conversation as a family about any changes that will be happening this school year. Will there be new drop off or pick up routines, a new bus stop, or a new school?
Many schools offer open house nights or orientation days—perfect opportunities to familiarize your child with their new environment. Don’t miss out on these events! They can help your child feel more comfortable and confident.
Some kids need a bit more time to adjust. If that’s the case, consider scheduling an additional visit to the school. It never hurts to call the principal and request a private tour. This extra step can make a world of difference in making your child feel at home.
Before the school year starts, take a trip to the new bus stop. Walk through the routine with your child, showing them exactly where they’ll be picked up and dropped off. This simple activity can alleviate anxiety and build confidence.
- Start your school routine (ideally, two weeks) before the first day of school.
A regular bedtime routine is crucial for your child’s health and school success. Create a calming pre-sleep ritual and stick to it every night. Consistency helps regulate their internal clock, ensuring they get the rest they need.
Encourage your child to turn off electronic devices 1-2 hours before bedtime. The blue light emitted by screens can interfere with sleep patterns, making it harder to fall asleep. Instead, opt for relaxing activities like reading or listening to soothing music.
A healthy breakfast sets the tone for the day. Ensure your child’s morning meal includes protein, which helps sustain energy and concentration throughout the school day. Think eggs, yogurt, sausage, or whole-grain toast with nut butter.
- Some kids experience anxiety over not remembering the academic skills learned the year before. Remind your child that they’re not alone—many students share this concern. Teachers are well aware that kids haven’t been in the classroom for a while. To help everyone get back on track, they dedicate the first few weeks of school to reviewing past material and easing into new topics.
Talk about expectations (and get organized!):
- Start by asking your child what their goals are for the school year. Whether it’s improving in a particular subject, joining a club, or making new friends, helping them articulate their aspirations is key. Collaborate on a plan and strategies to achieve these goals, then write them down and display them in a prominent place. This constant visual reminder will keep them motivated and focused.
- Remind your child of your household rules and expectations, especially regarding homework and screen time. For example, establish that homework must be completed before any screen time or playtime. Clear guidelines help set a routine and eliminate daily negotiations.
- Designate a special spot for homework and school materials. Involve your child in picking out supplies and setting up their homework area. A personalized, organized space can make homework time more enjoyable and productive.
- Dedicate time each Sunday to plan and review the weekly calendar as a family. This helps everyone stay on the same page and manage their schedules effectively. Make sure the calendar is visible throughout the week for quick and easy reference.
Don’t forget the FUN!
Celebrating the first day of school can set a positive tone for the entire school year. Here are some ideas:
- Special breakfast: Start the day with a favorite breakfast, whether it’s pancakes with smiley faces, a smoothie bar, or donuts. Make it a surprise or have your child help plan!
- First day photos: Create a fun photo booth with props like “First Day of School” signs, chalkboards to write their grade, and a backdrop.
- Personalized school supplies: Involve your child in customizing their school supplies. Let them decorate their notebooks, backpacks, and pencil cases with stickers, paint, or fabric markers.
- Surprise lunchbox notes: Pack a lunch with little notes of encouragement, jokes, or fun facts. It’s a great way to remind them you’re thinking of them throughout the day.
- After-school treat: Plan a special after-school treat, like a visit to their favorite ice cream shop or a homemade dessert they’ve been craving.
- First day of school tradition: Establish a family tradition, like a special dinner where everyone shares stories about their first day, or a small gift that marks the start of a new school year.
- Memory jar: Start a memory jar where they can write down something memorable from their first day and continue adding to it throughout the year. It’s a great way to look back on the school year later.
- Back-to-school party: Host a small back-to-school party with friends and family. Include fun games and activities to celebrate the start of a new school year.
- Scavenger hunt: Create a scavenger hunt with school-related items or clues around the house that lead to a small prize, like a new book or a fun school supply.
- Countdown calendar: Use a countdown calendar leading up to the first day of school. Each day, do something fun or school-related, like reading a book together or organizing school supplies.
What happens if your child’s back-to-school jitters linger longer than expected?
- Start by truly listening to your child’s concerns. Dive into the specific thoughts fueling their anxiety. Are they worried that no one will like them? Or perhaps they’re anxious about struggling in math? By identifying these fears, you can work together to tackle and reframe these negative thoughts. Problem-solving as a team can boost their self-assurance and help them see the first day of school in a new light.
- Watch for physical symptoms. Anxiety often manifests physically with belly aches, headaches, or nausea. To combat these symptoms, introduce daily breathing exercises and relaxation techniques. Teaching your child how to manage physical tension can significantly reduce these uncomfortable sensations, making them feel more at ease.
- Face fears head-on. It’s natural to want to shield your child from distressing emotions, but avoiding school can actually exacerbate their fears. Instead, use the coping strategies you’ve practiced together to confront these feelings. Encourage your child to attend school and face their anxieties. Collaborate with teachers or counselors to create a plan that includes relaxation breaks when needed, ensuring they can manage their emotions and return to class refreshed.
- Develop a plan to seek help. Empower your child by creating a clear plan for when and how to seek help. Don’t hesitate to loop in their teacher, keeping them informed and involved. Together, you can devise a supportive strategy that addresses your child’s needs both at home and in school.
When it comes to your child’s mental and emotional well-being, don’t hesitate to seek professional assistance. At Acadia Psychology and Learning Services, we offer expert consultation services designed to help you understand the severity of your child’s concerns and guide you on the best steps to take.
Read more about Jennifer Jury and her services at https://www.acadiapsych.com/.
